Angelina and I have been married for three years; have been dating for seven and a half years, and we've known each other for around ten years. We can pretty much tell what the other is thinking, but we also like to keep open communication just in case one of our brain waves is off a little bit. We try to make sure we are on the same page as much as possible. Whether there's a decision that needs to be made, or one of us wants to go out with friends, we talk to each other about it. It is respectful. It really aggravates me when little miss prissy working the counter at a chain bakery judges us after she asks me a question and I look at Angelina. Yes I know "Do I want a rewards card?" is an easy question, but do we eat at this place enough to make carrying one worth it? With that question in my mind, I looked at Angelina to see what she thought. Before Angelina could answer, Ms. Bagelbrains says (picture a high pitched obnoxious voice) "Ha Ha! You ask for permission?" Before I was rude and responded, Angelina says that we don't eat there enough to need a rewards card.
I also "ask" Angelina if I can go out with friends, go to the gym, or go where ever. To people who don't live with us, it does sound like I'm asking permission; but I am not asking for permission, I am asking if there is anything that would prevent me from going. Angelina is WAY better at keeping our schedules straight. So when I say "Is it cool if I go to the gym this afternoon?" I'm really saying, "Are we doing anything this afternoon, because I want to go to the gym." I can't remember a time that I was "told no". Asking is just my style of communication, so don't judge me.
This hasn't been the first time I've heard this and I know it won't be the last. In the future I'm going to use this as a practice tool for my patience instead of getting irritated so quickly when people make comments. Hopefully I can remember that I said this, because these situations actually don't happen very often, but they are very memorable.
"If you want to go quickly, go alone. If you want to go far, go together." —African proverb
This is the third time I have written out a comment for this. I have my moments of completely idiocy. Jeanette has started to call them, "Elliott Moments" hahaha. But hey if someone doesn't understand y'alls communication then that's their problem. Jeanette and I do the same thing sorta, except for the fact that we both kinda suck at scheduling things (as you well know :P )
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